Sex after a back or spinal surgery Many of our patients ask us for a back-friendly sexual behavior. The most common questions are: When or and As May I get intimate with my partner again? Here are some pieces of information that may suggest how sexual gathering after a back and / or spinal disc surgery can be nice and rewarding. Basically: careful sexual activities can be started as early as the first week after surgery. Make only gentle movements. In principle, however, the operated person (woman / man) should rather take on a passive role in the first 4 weeks. Below are some back-friendly example positions that can be applied. It is important to distinguish whether the woman or the man was operated on! Also note that if intimate get-togethers are a problem, wait and try again later. Basically: practices where you have to tense the body and exert too much effort should be avoided. Relaxed pelvic movement can even be seen as a preventive exercise against back problems, a gentle lovemaking can be one of the best forms of relaxation.